love :: someone 

This post is being written at a time when I know there’s people in my world dealing with stuff. I hope my reflection on this topic will help someone and begin a healing process. 

HEARTBREAK

When heartbreak happens, it’s like being gutted with a knife like a fish. But, the thing to remember is you’re a special kind of fish, a rainbow fish in a beautiful big sea of opportunity, abundant in happiness, and teaming with life. 

Sometimes the person you believed to be the one (although none of know how true that theory really is), just isn’t. And timing is everything. I hate saying that, but sometimes it can be right for one of you, but not right for the other. You need to be on the same page and ready to align. If not, it’s going to cause aggro, and you don’t need that at the start of a relationship.

SELF FOCUS

It’s really important to focus on your self sometimes. The statement “you can’t love someone until you love yourself” is entirely true – or it is at least from my (limited) experience. 

Call it whatever you want, but this video is a really important watch. It speaks a lot of truths that we must remember when something unexpected happens in a relationship. The article that follows goes into more detail and is an important read also. 

TRUST

Love never fails, and it never gives up. If it’s true love it finds a way to work out. 

Breakthrough comes. It takes time but it comes. Love and life washes back over you and everything falls into place again. 

There are so many phases and stages in life that make us feel like we have no control, that we cannot jump off the rollercoaster. 

Instead of feeling panic-stricken, trust the journey. Trust the rollercoaster tracks, trust what’s holding you safe inside. Trust that your life will get better.

MIND OVER MATTER 

Fill your days with the things that make you you. 

Separate what you had with someone from what you have with yourself. They’re separate, even if the lines were blurred for a while while you were together. 

PAIN

It is natural to feel pain. The end of a relationship is not far off the end of a life, so grieving is normal and perfectly okay. It’s a process you have to go through. 

In a perfect world, our first love would be our last. But it’s not usually like that. Life throws curveballs and it’s shitty when things go tits up. 

Pain is okay, and crying till you have no tears left is okay. 

Your hand will be held by someone else one day, they will hold you till your tears soak the shoulder of their t-shirt. You will feel love again, and you will be loved again. 

SOUL 

Don’t let the pain and the heartache detract you from the beauty of your soul. 

You probably learned so much during the relationship, particularly about yourself. And that’s a good thing. You can take that forward to the (many) more you’re going to go with before you find who you nestle in with. 

Souls intertwine, but not often enough. 

It’s important to allow yourself to feel again to not let it numb you. 

You’re a strong and beautiful human, and the path set before you is filled with wonderful, glorious things. You’re going to be living life to the fullest, soaking up the sun on a remote island, and I’m going to be with you every step of the way. 

You should know I’m crying now. 

Never forget what you mean to the world. And particularly to me, you’re an angel and one of the most special parts of my world. 

Love,

Your Best Friend 💗.